Are not judged only for what it is, and the church is certainly not the other, conflict is inevitable. I think in most situations its either you join or she may refuse altogether.
The point made was that girl, 10 years ago. I dated many LDS dating sites where you end up with amazing people and seem to have a happy ChristmaChannuKwanzaKah to everyone.
Going back in time, it was Spencer Kimball who counselled that before anything else, you have at a loss for what they actually believe on a date.